The results of many studies have shown that the combination of premarital factors that prompted young people to enter into a family Union significantly affects the success of adaptation of spouses in the first years of joint life, the strength of marriage or the likelihood of divorce. Such premarital factors are:
place and situation of meeting young people;
first impression of each other (positive, negative, ambivalent, indifferent);
socio-demographic characteristics of those who marry;
duration of the courtship period; Continue reading
Social and functional mechanisms of family integration E. G. Eidemiller and V. V. Justitsky (1990) call a set of psychological processes that cover family members and their relationships, leading to the formation and development of Pro – family motives (that is, motives that determine a positive attitude to the family, the desire to remain a member, the desire to strengthen it), which contribute to the removal of negative, frustrating experiences-anxiety, stress, and resolution of internal and interpersonal conflicts.
The effect of these mechanisms is manifested in how a particular family reacts to difficulties and frustrations. If these mechanisms do not work in the family or are violated, then difficulties act as a factor that destroys the family, weakening its strength. Continue reading
Close ideas about the role of “parental programming” in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family and its individual members affect the child’s personality, he uses the concept-metaphor “scenario”: “a Scenario is a gradually unfolding life plan that is formed… in early childhood, mainly under the influence of parents. This psychic impulse pushes a person forward with great force, towards his fate, and very often regardless of his resistance or free choice” (FOOTNOTE: Bern E. Games played by people. People who play games. – L., 1992.- Pp. 175-176.) (our italics. – E. S.). This is a kind of unconscious acceptance by the child of the prescriptive “image” of the future adult life-the fate of the “winner” or “defeated”, “loser”. Continue reading