Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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Adaptation in a young family
The initial period of marriage is characterized by family adaptation and integration. According To I. V. Grebennikov, adaptation is the adaptation of spouses to each other and to the environment…

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Principles of joint married life
In a well-off family, there is always a sense of today's and tomorrow's joy. In order to keep it, the couple needs to leave a bad mood and troubles outside…

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Specifics of the premarital period

The results of many studies have shown that the combination of premarital factors that prompted young people to enter into a family Union significantly affects the success of adaptation of spouses in the first years of joint life, the strength of marriage or the likelihood of divorce. Such premarital factors are:

place and situation of meeting young people;
first impression of each other (positive, negative, ambivalent, indifferent);
socio-demographic characteristics of those who marry;
duration of the courtship period; Continue reading

Mechanisms for family integration

Social and functional mechanisms of family integration E. G. Eidemiller and V. V. Justitsky (1990) call a set of psychological processes that cover family members and their relationships, leading to the formation and development of Pro – family motives (that is, motives that determine a positive attitude to the family, the desire to remain a member, the desire to strengthen it), which contribute to the removal of negative, frustrating experiences-anxiety, stress, and resolution of internal and interpersonal conflicts.

The effect of these mechanisms is manifested in how a particular family reacts to difficulties and frustrations. If these mechanisms do not work in the family or are violated, then difficulties act as a factor that destroys the family, weakening its strength. Continue reading

Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)

Close ideas about the role of “parental programming” in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family and its individual members affect the child’s personality, he uses the concept-metaphor “scenario”: “a Scenario is a gradually unfolding life plan that is formed… in early childhood, mainly under the influence of parents. This psychic impulse pushes a person forward with great force, towards his fate, and very often regardless of his resistance or free choice” (FOOTNOTE: Bern E. Games played by people. People who play games. – L., 1992.- Pp. 175-176.) (our italics. – E. S.). This is a kind of unconscious acceptance by the child of the prescriptive “image” of the future adult life-the fate of the “winner” or “defeated”, “loser”. Continue reading

Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 1)
The relationship between generations can be viewed in various aspects: as a historically and culturally variable phenomenon; as a psychological inheritance; as the personal relationships of grandparents and their children…

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State of family guilt
The feeling of guilt arises in everyone quite naturally if we commit an unnatural act that generates conflict. Committing exculpatory acts mitigates guilt. In this case, we are talking about…

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Marriage satisfaction
In psychological research, the main focus is on the study of marriage satisfaction. Most experts define it as an internal subjective assessment, the attitude of the spouses to their own…

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Planning a marriage Affairs
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with…

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