Family rules
Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced…

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Family rules
Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced…

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Theories of choosing a marriage partner
There are various theories for choosing a marriage partner. Some researchers, such as K. Melville, liken the process of choosing a spouse to a trade transaction, with the" currency "…

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Pre-marital courtship

This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there is a strong tendency to neglect pre-marital courtship in modern boys and girls (the latter are largely forced). S. V. Kovalev identifies three most important functions of this period, which correspondingly reflect the three main and chronologically relatively consecutive stages of the beginning of family life.

1. During the entire courtship, there is an accumulation of joint impressions and experiences. This is the emotional potential of the subsequent family life, the store of feelings from which the spouses will draw strength and joy in difficult periods of marriage. Continue reading

Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)

Close ideas about the role of “parental programming” in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family and its individual members affect the child’s personality, he uses the concept-metaphor “scenario”: “a Scenario is a gradually unfolding life plan that is formed… in early childhood, mainly under the influence of parents. This psychic impulse pushes a person forward with great force, towards his fate, and very often regardless of his resistance or free choice” (FOOTNOTE: Bern E. Games played by people. People who play games. – L., 1992.- Pp. 175-176.) (our italics. – E. S.). This is a kind of unconscious acceptance by the child of the prescriptive “image” of the future adult life-the fate of the “winner” or “defeated”, “loser”. Continue reading

“Psychoanalytic” model of family education (part 2)

Dolto sees the main difficulty in passing the stages of personality formation for children not in children, but in parents. Difficult parents-overprotective, authoritarian, forcibly holding growing children in the nets of possessiveness. Analysis of childhood memories, ways of learning in kindergarten and school, features of education in a single-parent family, attitudes to money and punishment, all the details of children’s life reveals a huge interest in childhood psychoanalyst, recognition of the enduring importance of children’s stages of development. To share this position means that every parent, every specialist working with children, should feel these feelings. Continue reading

"The parameters of a family system»
There are six main parameters of the family system: Patterns of interaction Family rules Family myths Beyond the family The stabilizers of the family Family history 1. Stereotypes of family…

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Family rules
Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced…

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Planning a marriage Affairs
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with…

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Methods and techniques of educational influence
1. Method of modification, retraining. The art and science of this approach is to isolate small elements of behavior, highlight positive aspects, and try to approve them as much as…

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