Pre-marital courtship
This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there…

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Structural and role functioning of the family and its violations (part 1)
The family, as a system, on the one hand has a physical structure represented by specific members, and, on the other hand, there is a structure of relations in the…

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"Psychoanalytic" model of family education (part 2)
Dolto sees the main difficulty in passing the stages of personality formation for children not in children, but in parents. Difficult parents-overprotective, authoritarian, forcibly holding growing children in the nets…

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difficulties

Kind of love

The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies six styles, or” colors”, of love:

Eros-passionate, exclusive love-passion, striving for full physical possession;
Ludus-hedonistic love-a game that does not differ in depth of feeling and is relatively easy to admit the possibility of infidelity;
storge – calm, warm and reliable love-friendship;
Pragma-arises from a mixture of Ludus and storge-rational, easily controllable; love by calculation;
mania-grows out of a mixture of Eros and Ludus, irrational love-obsession, which is typical of uncertainty and dependence on the object of attraction; Continue reading

Idealization of the partner

In the first years of marriage (especially if the period of pre-marital acquaintance was short), the consequences of such a specific pre-marital relationship distortion of perception as the idealization of the partner can play a negative role. M. A. Abalakina (1987) believes that there are three points of view on the problem of idealization of a partner:

Idealization unreasonably overestimates the expectations placed on the partner and on interaction with him. The realization that a real person does not match the ideal image, plays a destructive role, leads to deep dissatisfaction with the partner, yourself, and the relationship as a whole. Continue reading

Development of family science and historical changes in family and marriage

Many studies have been devoted to family and marriage from ancient times to the present day. Even the ancient thinkers Plato and Aristotle justified their views on marriage and the family, criticized the type of family of their time and put forward projects for its transformation.

Science has extensive and reliable information about the nature of family relationships in the history of society. Family change has evolved from promiscuity (promiscuity), group marriage, matriarchy, and Patriarchy to monogamy. The family passed from the lowest form to the highest as society rose through the stages of development. Continue reading

Family and marriage
The family is based on marriage relations, in which both the natural and social nature of a person is manifested, both the material (social being) and the spiritual (social consciousness)…

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"Behavioral" model of family education
The roots of this trend go back to behavioral psychology (j.Watson, B. F. Skinner). The main focus of the model is on the child's behavior technique and discipline. An experimental…

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Grandparents
In many cultures, the level of relationship between the family and its progenitors is quite high. This applies even to American families, where early separation from the parent family is…

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Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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