In the first years of marriage (especially if the period of pre-marital acquaintance was short), the consequences of such a specific pre-marital relationship distortion of perception as the idealization of the partner can play a negative role. M. A. Abalakina (1987) believes that there are three points of view on the problem of idealization of a partner:
Idealization unreasonably overestimates the expectations placed on the partner and on interaction with him. The realization that a real person does not match the ideal image, plays a destructive role, leads to deep dissatisfaction with the partner, yourself, and the relationship as a whole. Continue reading
Many studies have been devoted to family and marriage from ancient times to the present day. Even the ancient thinkers Plato and Aristotle justified their views on marriage and the family, criticized the type of family of their time and put forward projects for its transformation.
Science has extensive and reliable information about the nature of family relationships in the history of society. Family change has evolved from promiscuity (promiscuity), group marriage, matriarchy, and Patriarchy to monogamy. The family passed from the lowest form to the highest as society rose through the stages of development. Continue reading
Most of the contradictions that arise between spouses can be resolved without resorting to such a radical means as divorce. Often the opinion that divorce will bring real relief and help solve all the difficulties and problems is just a naive misconception. As a rule, a person has his own personal problems in himself and in new relationships they manifest themselves with greater force.
At the same time, divorce creates new problems for which the spouses are often not ready. These are problems of building relationships between ex-husband and wife, as well as relationships with children. In Russia, former spouses are often enemies. Continue reading