"Psychoanalytic" model of family education (part 2)
Dolto sees the main difficulty in passing the stages of personality formation for children not in children, but in parents. Difficult parents-overprotective, authoritarian, forcibly holding growing children in the nets…

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Planning a marriage Affairs
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with…

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Marriage and its consequences
The importance of a marriage ceremony not only for a young couple, but for the whole family is becoming more obvious as more and more young people refuse this ceremony.…

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Making a decision about marriage

The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and moral considerations.

Any of them may be leading, but young people often put love first.

Within the framework of psychological science, systematic analysis of love problems began in the 40s of the XX century. the First works about love were mostly theoretical, nowadays there are much more empirical studies. Continue reading

Kind of love

The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies six styles, or” colors”, of love:

Eros-passionate, exclusive love-passion, striving for full physical possession;
Ludus-hedonistic love-a game that does not differ in depth of feeling and is relatively easy to admit the possibility of infidelity;
storge – calm, warm and reliable love-friendship;
Pragma-arises from a mixture of Ludus and storge-rational, easily controllable; love by calculation;
mania-grows out of a mixture of Eros and Ludus, irrational love-obsession, which is typical of uncertainty and dependence on the object of attraction; Continue reading

“Humanistic” model of family education (part 2)

The key concepts of this system of education are cooperation, participation; creative flexible approach to different children; emotional honesty; an atmosphere of love, encouragement, and encouragement. To achieve positive behavior of children, psychologists advise parents:

use joint family discussions of family problems and achievements;
to ask about his problems (instead of explanations and statements), it contributes to the development of thinking skills and criticism. Ask questions to children only if there is a genuine interest in the child’s opinion and feelings. You can’t ask questions as “traps” if the parent knows the answer in advance; Continue reading

Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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Methods and techniques of educational influence
1. Method of modification, retraining. The art and science of this approach is to isolate small elements of behavior, highlight positive aspects, and try to approve them as much as…

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Remarriage
And yet – the family broke up. What happens then, when it is possible to create a second family? When a family breaks up, former spouses are often in conflict.…

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Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 1)
The relationship between generations can be viewed in various aspects: as a historically and culturally variable phenomenon; as a psychological inheritance; as the personal relationships of grandparents and their children…

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