The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and moral considerations.
Any of them may be leading, but young people often put love first.
Within the framework of psychological science, systematic analysis of love problems began in the 40s of the XX century. the First works about love were mostly theoretical, nowadays there are much more empirical studies. Continue reading
The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies six styles, or” colors”, of love:
Eros-passionate, exclusive love-passion, striving for full physical possession;
Ludus-hedonistic love-a game that does not differ in depth of feeling and is relatively easy to admit the possibility of infidelity;
storge – calm, warm and reliable love-friendship;
Pragma-arises from a mixture of Ludus and storge-rational, easily controllable; love by calculation;
mania-grows out of a mixture of Eros and Ludus, irrational love-obsession, which is typical of uncertainty and dependence on the object of attraction; Continue reading
The key concepts of this system of education are cooperation, participation; creative flexible approach to different children; emotional honesty; an atmosphere of love, encouragement, and encouragement. To achieve positive behavior of children, psychologists advise parents:
use joint family discussions of family problems and achievements;
to ask about his problems (instead of explanations and statements), it contributes to the development of thinking skills and criticism. Ask questions to children only if there is a genuine interest in the child’s opinion and feelings. You can’t ask questions as “traps” if the parent knows the answer in advance; Continue reading