Pre-marital courtship
This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there…

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Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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Beyond the family
Every family is a system, and every system has its own structure and boundaries. The boundaries of the family depend closely on the state of the boundaries of large social…

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Pre-marital courtship

This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there is a strong tendency to neglect pre-marital courtship in modern boys and girls (the latter are largely forced). S. V. Kovalev identifies three most important functions of this period, which correspondingly reflect the three main and chronologically relatively consecutive stages of the beginning of family life.

1. During the entire courtship, there is an accumulation of joint impressions and experiences. This is the emotional potential of the subsequent family life, the store of feelings from which the spouses will draw strength and joy in difficult periods of marriage. Continue reading

Making a decision about marriage

The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and moral considerations.

Any of them may be leading, but young people often put love first.

Within the framework of psychological science, systematic analysis of love problems began in the 40s of the XX century. the First works about love were mostly theoretical, nowadays there are much more empirical studies. Continue reading

“Humanistic” model of family education (part 2)

The key concepts of this system of education are cooperation, participation; creative flexible approach to different children; emotional honesty; an atmosphere of love, encouragement, and encouragement. To achieve positive behavior of children, psychologists advise parents:

use joint family discussions of family problems and achievements;
to ask about his problems (instead of explanations and statements), it contributes to the development of thinking skills and criticism. Ask questions to children only if there is a genuine interest in the child’s opinion and feelings. You can’t ask questions as “traps” if the parent knows the answer in advance; Continue reading

State of family guilt
The feeling of guilt arises in everyone quite naturally if we commit an unnatural act that generates conflict. Committing exculpatory acts mitigates guilt. In this case, we are talking about…

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Grandparents
In many cultures, the level of relationship between the family and its progenitors is quite high. This applies even to American families, where early separation from the parent family is…

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Structural and role functioning of the family and its violations (part 1)
The family, as a system, on the one hand has a physical structure represented by specific members, and, on the other hand, there is a structure of relations in the…

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Motivation for marriage
Interesting attempts to consider the "mechanisms" of the origin of love experiences. Thus, the most famous approach of Otto Weininger, who believed that the differentiation of the sexes, their separation…

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