The initial period of marriage is characterized by family adaptation and integration. According To I. V. Grebennikov, adaptation is the adaptation of spouses to each other and to the environment in which the family is located.
The psychological essence of mutual adaptation lies in the mutual comparison of spouses and in the mutual coordination of thoughts, feelings and behavior (Kovalev S. V., 1988). Adaptation is carried out in all areas of family life. Material and household adaptation consists in coordinating the rights and responsibilities of the spouses in performing household tasks and in forming a model of planning and distribution of the family budget that satisfies both of them. Continue reading
The key concepts of this system of education are cooperation, participation; creative flexible approach to different children; emotional honesty; an atmosphere of love, encouragement, and encouragement. To achieve positive behavior of children, psychologists advise parents:
use joint family discussions of family problems and achievements;
to ask about his problems (instead of explanations and statements), it contributes to the development of thinking skills and criticism. Ask questions to children only if there is a genuine interest in the child’s opinion and feelings. You can’t ask questions as “traps” if the parent knows the answer in advance; Continue reading
Close ideas about the role of “parental programming” in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family and its individual members affect the child’s personality, he uses the concept-metaphor “scenario”: “a Scenario is a gradually unfolding life plan that is formed… in early childhood, mainly under the influence of parents. This psychic impulse pushes a person forward with great force, towards his fate, and very often regardless of his resistance or free choice” (FOOTNOTE: Bern E. Games played by people. People who play games. – L., 1992.- Pp. 175-176.) (our italics. – E. S.). This is a kind of unconscious acceptance by the child of the prescriptive “image” of the future adult life-the fate of the “winner” or “defeated”, “loser”. Continue reading