Development of family science and historical changes in family and marriage
Many studies have been devoted to family and marriage from ancient times to the present day. Even the ancient thinkers Plato and Aristotle justified their views on marriage and the…

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Difficulties in the middle period of marriage
In most animal species, the family unit consisting of parents and children does not last long. As a rule, parents annually produce offspring, and the young go out into the…

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Kind of love
The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies…

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Kind of love

The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies six styles, or” colors”, of love:

Eros-passionate, exclusive love-passion, striving for full physical possession;
Ludus-hedonistic love-a game that does not differ in depth of feeling and is relatively easy to admit the possibility of infidelity;
storge – calm, warm and reliable love-friendship;
Pragma-arises from a mixture of Ludus and storge-rational, easily controllable; love by calculation;
mania-grows out of a mixture of Eros and Ludus, irrational love-obsession, which is typical of uncertainty and dependence on the object of attraction;
Agape – selfless love-giving, synthesis of Eros and storge.
It is believed that women are more characterized by storgic, pragmatic and manic manifestations of love feelings, and young men are more characterized by erotic and especially “ludic” components.

Currently, the most popular three-component theory of love by Robert Sternberg (Sternberg R., 1986; Myers D., 1999; Kraig G., 2000; Man from birth to death, 2001). According to Sternberg, love has three components: intimacy, passion, and decision (commitment). Intimacy, or a sense of psychological closeness, is manifested in a sincere sympathy for another person, in an effort to support him, make his life better, in a community of interests and activities. Passion refers to those types of arousal that lead to physical attraction and sexual behavior in a relationship. The motivational needs of passion, in addition to sexual needs, also include the need for self-respect, the need to belong to someone, or the need to get support in a difficult moment.

The last vertex of The Sternberg love triangle is a decision – commitment. The short-term aspect of this component is that a particular person loves another. The long-term aspect is the obligation to preserve this love.

R. Sternberg developed a systematics of love relationships based on various combinations of the three components of love. For example, sympathy between people is characterized by a sense of intimacy, intimacy, without passion and commitment. This is the relationship of brothers and sisters. Relationships that lack intimacy and passion are characterized by Sternberg as invented love; relationships that contain intimacy and a commitment to preserve love are characterized as love-companionship. The presence of all three components in a relationship – intimacy, passion, and commitment-is characteristic of perfect love. Most real love relationships fall between these categories.

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