Theories of choosing a marriage partner
There are various theories for choosing a marriage partner. Some researchers, such as K. Melville, liken the process of choosing a spouse to a trade transaction, with the" currency "…

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Kind of love
The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies…

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National peculiarities of family relations
Until the middle of the XIX century, the family was considered as the original micromodel of society, social relations were derived from the family, the society itself was interpreted by…

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Idealization of the partner

In the first years of marriage (especially if the period of pre-marital acquaintance was short), the consequences of such a specific pre-marital relationship distortion of perception as the idealization of the partner can play a negative role. M. A. Abalakina (1987) believes that there are three points of view on the problem of idealization of a partner:

Idealization unreasonably overestimates the expectations placed on the partner and on interaction with him. The realization that a real person does not match the ideal image, plays a destructive role, leads to deep dissatisfaction with the partner, yourself, and the relationship as a whole. In the future, all this, if you are unable or unwilling to establish interaction with a new, more real image of the partner, leads to the collapse of the relationship.
Another view of the role of idealization in pre-marital relationships can be called constructive. It consists in the fact that the idealization of the partner is an incentive for the development of his personality, defining for him a certain, relatively speaking, “zone of closest development” – who he can become.
The third point of view – within the framework of humanistic psychology, is most clearly stated in the works of A. Maslow (1970, 1975). In his opinion, self-actualizing individuals, that is, individuals who have reached the highest level of development – the level of realization of their potentials, have the most pronounced spontaneity and naturalness. Idealization is not peculiar to self-actualizing individuals at all. There is no doubt that personal characteristics mediate the degree of idealization.

National peculiarities of family relations
Until the middle of the XIX century, the family was considered as the original micromodel of society, social relations were derived from the family, the society itself was interpreted by…

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Pre-marital courtship
This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there…

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Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)
Close ideas about the role of "parental programming" in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family…

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Planning a marriage Affairs
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with…

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