The work of the psychologist with the teaching staff
The psychologist is called to do everything possible to ensure a real humanization of the relationship between children and teachers in kindergarten, to replace the usual orientation of the staff…

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Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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Beyond the family
Every family is a system, and every system has its own structure and boundaries. The boundaries of the family depend closely on the state of the boundaries of large social…

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Idealization of the partner

In the first years of marriage (especially if the period of pre-marital acquaintance was short), the consequences of such a specific pre-marital relationship distortion of perception as the idealization of the partner can play a negative role. M. A. Abalakina (1987) believes that there are three points of view on the problem of idealization of a partner:

Idealization unreasonably overestimates the expectations placed on the partner and on interaction with him. The realization that a real person does not match the ideal image, plays a destructive role, leads to deep dissatisfaction with the partner, yourself, and the relationship as a whole. In the future, all this, if you are unable or unwilling to establish interaction with a new, more real image of the partner, leads to the collapse of the relationship.
Another view of the role of idealization in pre-marital relationships can be called constructive. It consists in the fact that the idealization of the partner is an incentive for the development of his personality, defining for him a certain, relatively speaking, “zone of closest development” – who he can become.
The third point of view – within the framework of humanistic psychology, is most clearly stated in the works of A. Maslow (1970, 1975). In his opinion, self-actualizing individuals, that is, individuals who have reached the highest level of development – the level of realization of their potentials, have the most pronounced spontaneity and naturalness. Idealization is not peculiar to self-actualizing individuals at all. There is no doubt that personal characteristics mediate the degree of idealization.

"Psychoanalytic" model of family education (part 1)
In the classical psychoanalysis of Freud, the influence of parents on the child's mental development is given a Central place. In the first years of a child's life, the parents…

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Motivation for marriage
Interesting attempts to consider the "mechanisms" of the origin of love experiences. Thus, the most famous approach of Otto Weininger, who believed that the differentiation of the sexes, their separation…

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Adaptation in a young family
The initial period of marriage is characterized by family adaptation and integration. According To I. V. Grebennikov, adaptation is the adaptation of spouses to each other and to the environment…

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Family history
Many dysfunctional stereotypes in the family are reproduced in generations. For example, the alcoholism, the suicides, Lovelace, etc. Today it is well established genetic disorders, and just patterns of behavior…

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