Making a decision about marriage
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and…

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Methods and techniques of educational influence
1. Method of modification, retraining. The art and science of this approach is to isolate small elements of behavior, highlight positive aspects, and try to approve them as much as…

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Family rules
Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced…

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Idealization of the partner

In the first years of marriage (especially if the period of pre-marital acquaintance was short), the consequences of such a specific pre-marital relationship distortion of perception as the idealization of the partner can play a negative role. M. A. Abalakina (1987) believes that there are three points of view on the problem of idealization of a partner:

Idealization unreasonably overestimates the expectations placed on the partner and on interaction with him. The realization that a real person does not match the ideal image, plays a destructive role, leads to deep dissatisfaction with the partner, yourself, and the relationship as a whole. In the future, all this, if you are unable or unwilling to establish interaction with a new, more real image of the partner, leads to the collapse of the relationship.
Another view of the role of idealization in pre-marital relationships can be called constructive. It consists in the fact that the idealization of the partner is an incentive for the development of his personality, defining for him a certain, relatively speaking, “zone of closest development” – who he can become.
The third point of view – within the framework of humanistic psychology, is most clearly stated in the works of A. Maslow (1970, 1975). In his opinion, self-actualizing individuals, that is, individuals who have reached the highest level of development – the level of realization of their potentials, have the most pronounced spontaneity and naturalness. Idealization is not peculiar to self-actualizing individuals at all. There is no doubt that personal characteristics mediate the degree of idealization.

"Behavioral" model of family education
The roots of this trend go back to behavioral psychology (j.Watson, B. F. Skinner). The main focus of the model is on the child's behavior technique and discipline. An experimental…

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Marriage satisfaction
In psychological research, the main focus is on the study of marriage satisfaction. Most experts define it as an internal subjective assessment, the attitude of the spouses to their own…

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Family structure
The family structure is the composition of the family and its members, as well as the totality of their relationships (Eidemiller E. G., Justitsky V. V., 2001). The structure of…

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Motivation for marriage
Interesting attempts to consider the "mechanisms" of the origin of love experiences. Thus, the most famous approach of Otto Weininger, who believed that the differentiation of the sexes, their separation…

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