Principles of joint married life
In a well-off family, there is always a sense of today’s and tomorrow’s joy. In order to keep it, the couple needs to leave a bad mood and troubles outside the house, and when they come home, bring with them an atmosphere of elation, joy and optimism. If one of the spouses is in a bad mood, the other should help him get rid of the depressed mental state. In every disturbing and sad situation, you should try to catch the humorous notes, look at yourself from the outside; in the house, you should cultivate humor and jokes. If trouble is piling up, don’t be scared, try to sit down calmly and consistently understand their causes.
Many mistakes can be avoided by following the basic principles of married life together.
Really look at the contradictions that arise before marriage and after its conclusion.
Do not build illusions, so as not to be disappointed, since the present is unlikely to meet the standards and criteria that were previously planned.
Don’t avoid difficulties. Overcoming difficult situations together is a great opportunity to quickly find out how much both partners are willing to live by the principle of bilateral compromise.
Learn the psychology of the partner. To live in harmony, you need to understand each other, adapt, and be able to “please” each other.
Know the price of small things. Small, but frequent signs of attention are more valuable and significant than expensive gifts, which sometimes hide indifference, infidelity, etc.
To be tolerant, to be able to forget the insults. A person is ashamed of some of his mistakes and does not like to remember them. You should not be reminded of something that once broke the relationship and that should have been forgotten.
Be able to understand and anticipate the partner’s desires and needs.
Do not impose your requirements, protect the dignity of the partner.
Understand the benefits of temporary separation. Partners can get bored with each other, and separation allows you to understand how much you love your other half and how it is currently missing.
Take care of yourself. Carelessness, carelessness give rise to hostility and can lead to serious consequences.
Have a sense of proportion. Ability to take criticism calmly and kindly. It is important to emphasize the advantages of the partner first, and then point out the disadvantages in a friendly way.
Be aware of the causes and consequences of infidelity.
Don’t get desperate. Faced with a stressful situation in married life, it would be wrong to “proudly” separate and not look for a way out. But it is even worse to maintain at least an external balance through humiliation and threats.