The initial period of marriage is characterized by family adaptation and integration. According To I. V. Grebennikov, adaptation is the adaptation of spouses to each other and to the environment in which the family is located.
The psychological essence of mutual adaptation lies in the mutual comparison of spouses and in the mutual coordination of thoughts, feelings and behavior (Kovalev S. V., 1988). Adaptation is carried out in all areas of family life. Material and household adaptation consists in coordinating the rights and responsibilities of the spouses in performing household tasks and in forming a model of planning and distribution of the family budget that satisfies both of them. Continue reading
The most developed at the moment is the typology of love, proposed by D. A. Lee and empirically tested on two large samples (807 and 567 people). The author identifies six styles, or” colors”, of love:
Eros-passionate, exclusive love-passion, striving for full physical possession;
Ludus-hedonistic love-a game that does not differ in depth of feeling and is relatively easy to admit the possibility of infidelity;
storge – calm, warm and reliable love-friendship;
Pragma-arises from a mixture of Ludus and storge-rational, easily controllable; love by calculation;
mania-grows out of a mixture of Eros and Ludus, irrational love-obsession, which is typical of uncertainty and dependence on the object of attraction; Continue reading
The key concepts of this system of education are cooperation, participation; creative flexible approach to different children; emotional honesty; an atmosphere of love, encouragement, and encouragement. To achieve positive behavior of children, psychologists advise parents:
use joint family discussions of family problems and achievements;
to ask about his problems (instead of explanations and statements), it contributes to the development of thinking skills and criticism. Ask questions to children only if there is a genuine interest in the child’s opinion and feelings. You can’t ask questions as “traps” if the parent knows the answer in advance; Continue reading
One of the most well-known approaches to understanding parenting in the family was developed by A. Adler, the author of the individual theory of personality, which is sometimes considered as a precursor to humanistic psychology.
According to A. Adler, a person is a social being, and personal development is considered primarily through the prism of social relations. In the theory of personality developed by A. Adler, it is emphasized that each person has an innate sense of community, or social interest (i.e., a natural desire for cooperation), as well as a desire for perfection, in which the Uniqueness of the individual and the creative properties of the human “I”are realized. Continue reading
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with whom to intermarry vitally and permanently, and genetic – what is health how viable and strong is the progeny, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and with the economic – how firmly will stand on their feet heirs, etc.
At the same time, our ancestors also understood the meaning of psychology. A young family was created for decades, and the feelings of a girl and a young man entering into marriage were to be tested. Continue reading