There are various theories for choosing a marriage partner. Some researchers, such as K. Melville, liken the process of choosing a spouse to a trade transaction, with the” currency ” in exchange being the social values of two individuals, such as social origin, economic status, education, and personal qualities (age, appearance) (Melville K., 1977).
Proponents of the theory of homogamy (Nye A., Berardo F., Bossard J. and others) argued that “exchanged” can not be any man and woman, but only those who have the same “social value”, or homogamy. In fact, the possible candidates include candidates with the same characteristics that are of primary importance in terms of marital choice (race, religion, social class, proximity in educational level, age, marital status, territorial proximity of residence) (NyeL, BerardoE, 1973). Continue reading
In psychological research, the main focus is on the study of marriage satisfaction. Most experts define it as an internal subjective assessment, the attitude of the spouses to their own marriage. The most complete definition of what marriage satisfaction gives S. I. the Hunger: “marital Satisfaction, obviously, doubles as a result of adequate representation implementation (image) of family, prevailing in consciousness of the person under the influence of meetings with various events that constitute its experience (real or symbolic) in this field” (Hunger S. I., 1984).
Family stability and marriage satisfaction are not mutually exclusive concepts, they have a lot in common, but they do not have an unambiguous meaning — highly stable marriages are not always characterized by a high level of marriage satisfaction (for example, for traditional families, a stable marriage is quite common when the spouses are completely dissatisfied with their relationships, and in a modern family, such dissatisfaction can lead to a break even if there are children) (Sysenko V. A., 1981). Continue reading
Social and functional mechanisms of family integration E. G. Eidemiller and V. V. Justitsky (1990) call a set of psychological processes that cover family members and their relationships, leading to the formation and development of Pro – family motives (that is, motives that determine a positive attitude to the family, the desire to remain a member, the desire to strengthen it), which contribute to the removal of negative, frustrating experiences-anxiety, stress, and resolution of internal and interpersonal conflicts.
The effect of these mechanisms is manifested in how a particular family reacts to difficulties and frustrations. If these mechanisms do not work in the family or are violated, then difficulties act as a factor that destroys the family, weakening its strength. Continue reading
This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there is a strong tendency to neglect pre-marital courtship in modern boys and girls (the latter are largely forced). S. V. Kovalev identifies three most important functions of this period, which correspondingly reflect the three main and chronologically relatively consecutive stages of the beginning of family life.
1. During the entire courtship, there is an accumulation of joint impressions and experiences. This is the emotional potential of the subsequent family life, the store of feelings from which the spouses will draw strength and joy in difficult periods of marriage. Continue reading
The most significant for the pre-marital period is the motivation for marriage. Decision-making is often polimotivated, such motives can be identified: love, duty, spiritual closeness, material calculation, psychological compliance, and moral considerations.
Any of them may be leading, but young people often put love first.
Within the framework of psychological science, systematic analysis of love problems began in the 40s of the XX century. the First works about love were mostly theoretical, nowadays there are much more empirical studies. Continue reading