Modern research on family and marriage relations
Currently, the problems of matrimony-parenthood-kinship pay more attention not only in theory, but also in practice. The works of Yu. I. Aleshina, V. N. Druzhinin, S. V. Kovalev, A. S.…

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Principles of joint married life
In a well-off family, there is always a sense of today's and tomorrow's joy. In order to keep it, the couple needs to leave a bad mood and troubles outside…

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State of family guilt
The feeling of guilt arises in everyone quite naturally if we commit an unnatural act that generates conflict. Committing exculpatory acts mitigates guilt. In this case, we are talking about…

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generations

Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)

Close ideas about the role of “parental programming” in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family and its individual members affect the child’s personality, he uses the concept-metaphor “scenario”: “a Scenario is a gradually unfolding life plan that is formed… in early childhood, mainly under the influence of parents. This psychic impulse pushes a person forward with great force, towards his fate, and very often regardless of his resistance or free choice” (FOOTNOTE: Bern E. Games played by people. People who play games. – L., 1992.- Pp. 175-176.) (our italics. – E. S.). This is a kind of unconscious acceptance by the child of the prescriptive “image” of the future adult life-the fate of the “winner” or “defeated”, “loser”. Continue reading

Family rules

Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced or confessed. If we are talking about vowel rules, then it is easy to agree on them. If they are not voiced, the subordinations are unspoken, people pretend that there are no rules. It is important to identify not only vowels, but unspoken rules.

There are other rules:

Cultural ones that exist in a particular culture and are accepted by many families. They are known to all family members and all families. For example, parents should not have sex in front of children. Continue reading

Marriage satisfaction
In psychological research, the main focus is on the study of marriage satisfaction. Most experts define it as an internal subjective assessment, the attitude of the spouses to their own…

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Psychology of the family as a system
Over the past 50 years, a systematic approach has been dominant in family counseling, which views the family as a system. This means that the family is considered as a…

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Adaptation in a young family
The initial period of marriage is characterized by family adaptation and integration. According To I. V. Grebennikov, adaptation is the adaptation of spouses to each other and to the environment…

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Planning a marriage Affairs
In former times this side of life of the family, genus, names are treated not just seriously, but regarded as extremely important from all points of view: historical – with…

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