The source of difficulties in family life may be the personality characteristics of one or both spouses. We are talking about traits that initially corresponded to the norm, but were not quite adequate to the personal qualities of the partner or the partner did not find the right approach to communication, was not able to cope with some of the features of his own psyche. In addition, it can also be pathological properties of the individual, which in themselves represent a problem in interpersonal relationships, and even more so in marital relations, making them initially potentially conflicting and complex, requiring special skills and attitudes for more or less harmonious coexistence of family members (R. Vulis, 1999). Continue reading
Social and functional mechanisms of family integration E. G. Eidemiller and V. V. Justitsky (1990) call a set of psychological processes that cover family members and their relationships, leading to the formation and development of Pro – family motives (that is, motives that determine a positive attitude to the family, the desire to remain a member, the desire to strengthen it), which contribute to the removal of negative, frustrating experiences-anxiety, stress, and resolution of internal and interpersonal conflicts.
The effect of these mechanisms is manifested in how a particular family reacts to difficulties and frustrations. If these mechanisms do not work in the family or are violated, then difficulties act as a factor that destroys the family, weakening its strength. Continue reading
This is an important stage in preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. The role of this stage has undergone significant changes in the present century, so that now there is a strong tendency to neglect pre-marital courtship in modern boys and girls (the latter are largely forced). S. V. Kovalev identifies three most important functions of this period, which correspondingly reflect the three main and chronologically relatively consecutive stages of the beginning of family life.
1. During the entire courtship, there is an accumulation of joint impressions and experiences. This is the emotional potential of the subsequent family life, the store of feelings from which the spouses will draw strength and joy in difficult periods of marriage. Continue reading