Family history
Many dysfunctional stereotypes in the family are reproduced in generations. For example, the alcoholism, the suicides, Lovelace, etc. Today it is well established genetic disorders, and just patterns of behavior…

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Basic concepts of family psychology
The definition of the family: A family is a small social group that is based on marital Union and kinship relationships (husband-wife relationships, parents and children, siblings) that live together…

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"The parameters of a family system»
There are six main parameters of the family system: Patterns of interaction Family rules Family myths Beyond the family The stabilizers of the family Family history 1. Stereotypes of family…

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Structural and role functioning of the family and its violations (part 1)

The family, as a system, on the one hand has a physical structure represented by specific members, and, on the other hand, there is a structure of relations in the family-connections between family members. Each family member has a role to play. Family relationships are relationships between roles.

What is a role? The role arises because of certain expectations of the external environment. Accordingly, each role includes a normatively approved form of behavior that is expected from a person who occupies a certain position in the system of relations, including family ones. The concept of a role includes desires and goals, beliefs and feelings, attitudes, actions, and values that are attributed to a person who occupies a certain position in the relationship system. Continue reading

Beyond the family

Every family is a system, and every system has its own structure and boundaries. The boundaries of the family depend closely on the state of the boundaries of large social systems. The more open the borders of a larger social system (state), the more closed the borders of a smaller social system (family) are, and Vice versa. For 70 years, the USSR was a closed state, and families were very open. Now the system of the state has opened and the borders of the family are rapidly closing. A positive attitude towards closed family systems is being formed. But if the boundaries of the family are closed, then the boundaries of the subsystem (mom, dad) are increasingly open. For such systems, vertical dysfunctional coalitions (mom and daughter versus dad) are very common. All vertical coalitions are dysfunctional, while horizontal coalitions are functional. Continue reading

Family rules

Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced or confessed. If we are talking about vowel rules, then it is easy to agree on them. If they are not voiced, the subordinations are unspoken, people pretend that there are no rules. It is important to identify not only vowels, but unspoken rules.

There are other rules:

Cultural ones that exist in a particular culture and are accepted by many families. They are known to all family members and all families. For example, parents should not have sex in front of children. Continue reading

Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)
Close ideas about the role of "parental programming" in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family…

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Birth and treatment of children
One of the aspects of the marriage adventure is that just when the problems of a certain stage begin to be solved, the next stage opens up its new possibilities.…

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"The parameters of a family system»
There are six main parameters of the family system: Patterns of interaction Family rules Family myths Beyond the family The stabilizers of the family Family history 1. Stereotypes of family…

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State of family guilt
The feeling of guilt arises in everyone quite naturally if we commit an unnatural act that generates conflict. Committing exculpatory acts mitigates guilt. In this case, we are talking about…

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