Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)
Close ideas about the role of "parental programming" in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family…

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Grandparents
In many cultures, the level of relationship between the family and its progenitors is quite high. This applies even to American families, where early separation from the parent family is…

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Mechanisms for family integration
Social and functional mechanisms of family integration E. G. Eidemiller and V. V. Justitsky (1990) call a set of psychological processes that cover family members and their relationships, leading to…

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Structural and role functioning of the family and its violations (part 1)

The family, as a system, on the one hand has a physical structure represented by specific members, and, on the other hand, there is a structure of relations in the family-connections between family members. Each family member has a role to play. Family relationships are relationships between roles.

What is a role? The role arises because of certain expectations of the external environment. Accordingly, each role includes a normatively approved form of behavior that is expected from a person who occupies a certain position in the system of relations, including family ones. The concept of a role includes desires and goals, beliefs and feelings, attitudes, actions, and values that are attributed to a person who occupies a certain position in the relationship system. Continue reading

Beyond the family

Every family is a system, and every system has its own structure and boundaries. The boundaries of the family depend closely on the state of the boundaries of large social systems. The more open the borders of a larger social system (state), the more closed the borders of a smaller social system (family) are, and Vice versa. For 70 years, the USSR was a closed state, and families were very open. Now the system of the state has opened and the borders of the family are rapidly closing. A positive attitude towards closed family systems is being formed. But if the boundaries of the family are closed, then the boundaries of the subsystem (mom, dad) are increasingly open. For such systems, vertical dysfunctional coalitions (mom and daughter versus dad) are very common. All vertical coalitions are dysfunctional, while horizontal coalitions are functional. Continue reading

Family rules

Every family has its own rules of life. They are divided into vowels and unspoken ones, which everyone knows about, according to which everyone lives, but which are not voiced or confessed. If we are talking about vowel rules, then it is easy to agree on them. If they are not voiced, the subordinations are unspoken, people pretend that there are no rules. It is important to identify not only vowels, but unspoken rules.

There are other rules:

Cultural ones that exist in a particular culture and are accepted by many families. They are known to all family members and all families. For example, parents should not have sex in front of children. Continue reading

Diagnosis of conditions in a dysfunctional family
There are 4 main States of a dysfunctional family: State of global family dissatisfaction. A state of unbearable physical and mental stress. State of family anxiety. State of the family…

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Grandparents (grandparents) in the system of family relations (part 2)
Close ideas about the role of "parental programming" in the fate of a person are developed by the American psychotherapist E. Byrne. Describing the various ways in which the family…

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State of family guilt
The feeling of guilt arises in everyone quite naturally if we commit an unnatural act that generates conflict. Committing exculpatory acts mitigates guilt. In this case, we are talking about…

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Specifics of the premarital period
The results of many studies have shown that the combination of premarital factors that prompted young people to enter into a family Union significantly affects the success of adaptation of…

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