Most psychologists and sociologists who study family relations emphasize the importance of the initial period of family development (Matskovsky, M. S., Kharchev, A. G., 1978; Sysenko, V. A., 1981; Dementieva, I. F., 1991; Trapeznikova, T. M., 1988; Richardson, R., 1994; Grebennikov, I. F., 1991, etc.). “Like all living things, the family is the weakest at the moment of origin” (Yurkevich N. G., 1971, p. 88).
In Russian psychology, as a rule, the periodization of family development, proposed by V. A. Sysenko (1981, 1989), is used. According to this periodization, the term “young family” is understood quite broadly – “very young marriages” – from 0 to 4 years of experience and “young marriages” from 5 to 9 years. Continue reading
Most of the contradictions that arise between spouses can be resolved without resorting to such a radical means as divorce. Often the opinion that divorce will bring real relief and help solve all the difficulties and problems is just a naive misconception. As a rule, a person has his own personal problems in himself and in new relationships they manifest themselves with greater force.
At the same time, divorce creates new problems for which the spouses are often not ready. These are problems of building relationships between ex-husband and wife, as well as relationships with children. In Russia, former spouses are often enemies. Continue reading
And yet – the family broke up. What happens then, when it is possible to create a second family?
When a family breaks up, former spouses are often in conflict. If one of them remarries, the relationship often escalates. If both former spouses remarry, the relationship between them either ends or becomes neutral. Still, in nine cases out of ten, mothers try to keep their children away from their ex – husbands ‘ fathers and do their best to tie their children to their stepfathers.
Another pattern: out of three remarriages, two families break up. Continue reading