The source of difficulties in family life may be the personality characteristics of one or both spouses. We are talking about traits that initially corresponded to the norm, but were not quite adequate to the personal qualities of the partner or the partner did not find the right approach to communication, was not able to cope with some of the features of his own psyche. In addition, it can also be pathological properties of the individual, which in themselves represent a problem in interpersonal relationships, and even more so in marital relations, making them initially potentially conflicting and complex, requiring special skills and attitudes for more or less harmonious coexistence of family members (R. Vulis, 1999). Continue reading
A specialist in psychosocial work is familiar with the problem of analyzing factors of family well-being-trouble. The complexity of the family as a social system and the psychological community of people of different gender, age, social and professional affiliation leads to the fact that attempts to identify a complete list of such factors may be unsuccessful. Therefore, when discussing this problem, it is usually about trying to identify the most significant factors and indicators of family well-being. One of the integral indicators is the psychological compatibility of spouses (family members in General).
People who create a family tend to meet a set of needs – in love, in children, in experiencing common joys, in understanding, communication. Continue reading
Interesting attempts to consider the “mechanisms” of the origin of love experiences. Thus, the most famous approach of Otto Weininger, who believed that the differentiation of the sexes, their separation is never completely complete. All the features of the male sex can be found, even in the weakest development, and in the female sex. You can use the concepts of the ideal man “M” and the ideal woman ” W ” only as typical sexual forms. “The law of sexual attraction”, formulated by FR. According to Weininger, ” to connect the sexes, a perfect man “M” and a perfect woman “W” are needed, although they are separated in two different individuals in completely different combinations.” The author of this theory believed that the existence of the institution of marriage is due to the fact that the presence of a huge number of intermediate stages allows you to find two individuals who are most suitable for each other (Weininger O., 1990, p. 12). Continue reading
Most psychologists and sociologists who study family relations emphasize the importance of the initial period of family development (Matskovsky, M. S., Kharchev, A. G., 1978; Sysenko, V. A., 1981; Dementieva, I. F., 1991; Trapeznikova, T. M., 1988; Richardson, R., 1994; Grebennikov, I. F., 1991, etc.). “Like all living things, the family is the weakest at the moment of origin” (Yurkevich N. G., 1971, p. 88).
In Russian psychology, as a rule, the periodization of family development, proposed by V. A. Sysenko (1981, 1989), is used. According to this periodization, the term “young family” is understood quite broadly – “very young marriages” – from 0 to 4 years of experience and “young marriages” from 5 to 9 years. Continue reading
The results of many studies have shown that the combination of premarital factors that prompted young people to enter into a family Union significantly affects the success of adaptation of spouses in the first years of joint life, the strength of marriage or the likelihood of divorce. Such premarital factors are:
place and situation of meeting young people;
first impression of each other (positive, negative, ambivalent, indifferent);
socio-demographic characteristics of those who marry;
duration of the courtship period; Continue reading